I didn't leave the house today. I was going to try and hit the gym, but after spending the afternoon working in the yard I was tired and still had projects to do at home. So consequently, I didn't do my hair or make-up or anything. So the following pictures are simply my proof that I can survive a day without being high maintenance. (For the record though I've felt like a total slacker all day because I didn't get up and go through my normal routines.)
My mom urged me to take down my whining part of the post because she was afraid it came across as making Travis look bad. I never intended that. I was just frustrated and venting. So it's gone now. Enjoy me with no make-up.
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I didn't realize you were a mortgage loan officer, that's what I have done for 14 years. Are the changes in the market affecting your business?
Anyway you are so a good Mom just because you are stressed doesn't make you a bad mom.
And for Travis, men just don't think the way we do about babies and alot of other things. My guess is that he feels like he can leave the baby for xx hours a week so why can't you.
Really sorry you are going through this but you two will work it out.
After leaving I thought I should have been more supportive. I worked from home for the last 8 years or so. I am not sure what kind of company you work for but if you market to Realtors, I used little attention getters, creative ways. I never went in an office without leaving something for everyone (or at every desk) since I wanted to make my visit count. I had a cell and home number (dedicated line). I used to forward alot. I mainly had a home line because my cell didn't work good out here. You could go out once a week and hit all the local real estate places. There are so many up sides. Making you own schedule when you have kids is great. I managed to take Chase to early morning seminary until he had his license, which I could not of done if I had to go in at 8:00 am like I do now. You can also work around school things and drs appts etc. It's great and I already miss it. But my company didn't want to let me just do what I wanted. They expected 1.5 million a month in registrations. And frankly the direction the business is going, I wasn't getting that from this area. I had two major problems. One...people are buying foreclosures which are alot less money and some of my loans were just over 20k. Two....alot of my people just don't qualify. This area was designated as a declining market which meant the best ltv in this area was 92 unless they went fha. Our fha loans were 45 days plus to close. And even in area that weren't declining markets, I had appraisers put it in there appraisal and boom we had to go back to 92ltv.
Maybe consider taking a tax course and hanging a shingle during tax season also. You'd be real busy a few months only. I know realtors that also do taxes from their home. Actually c21 and remax in terre haute have had ads in the paper for realtors. WOW!!!! But the agents are willing to listen to anything that works now. Here is something you could try...our company did it but you could do it on your own. It's a win win for the agents.I think I'll email that. Post your email for me. Good luck!!!
Cathy, I was so worried people would take this post wrong and BAM! You are the one person I know who could see it and come up with great solutions for Cali and Travis. Thank You!
Cali, I still feel how I did in the email though. Love you!
You know I'd breath for a few days and let him adjust to the idea of one income. We have to remember it is a big change even if you can swing it. And losing the "luxuries" is an adjustment too.
The other thing I would do is show him on paper how he can get that new truck and how you can save for these other big things. Basically sell him on the idea.
I think it takes time to understand how much changes with a kid. You're completely dependent on them for your schedule and how productive you get to be. And its easy to assume that is not the case.
I'd take a few days to pray for Travis and the situation as a whole and I'm sure you'll find the answers that work best for you.
You're loved. Have a good day!
Honestly Ang & Cathy I think you're both right. I think he's just scared because he was raised in a 2 income home and we've always had a two income home. So I think that it's just fear. But big decisions and changes always come with fear.
Travis is a great guy and I know he doesn't mean to hurt me. I know he wants to be supportive, I just think he's not sure how because this is uncharted territory for both of us. I'm still trying to get used to the idea of not working full time. It is a little bit scary. But I know it can work.
Anyway I love you guys. Thanks for letting me vent and being such a great support.
WOW!! I feel so powerful! :-)
Hey, I missed the whining part but I kinda gather from the other comments that Travis might be a little worried about you being a stay-at-home-mom.
I that's the case, it's perfectly normal. Just be prayerful and all will work out. Only you two and Heavenly Father can decide what's right for your family!
PS I think it's really cool of your Mom to be concerned about the Travis' feelings...My Mom would have just jumped right in and gone down Johns list of "what-dun-wrongs"!
I would love to get to know your husband. I have only ever met the man once, and that was while I was getting married. I am looking forward to the Brazil Brats reunion, as an opportunity to sit down, chat, and make some new friends.
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Awww, man, that'll teach me to be a slacker blogger! I miss all the good stuff! But, we must follow our Mom's advice (my Mom totally would have done the same thing for my husband, sometimes I think she might love him more than me???!LOL!)
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